If you do not have anything good to say, say nothing.
That was one of the things I clearly remember from my Values Education teacher back in high school. Though it was something not directly addressed to me, it had a lasting effect on me.
From that day on, I became too careful of my words. I would always assess if my opinion is sensible before I present it, though most of the time I would choose to shut my mouth and wait till someone else stumble on my idea and represent it for me. Yes, I became too careful not to hurt others feeling. I became too afraid to get criticized. I believed that keeping my mouth shut is the safest way to go.
Thinking about that for a moment, I realized how one statement or even one word can impact a developing mind- fragile mind just starting to discover things. Even a slip of the tongue can make or break a child’s life.
Before you even think that I am overreacting, let me share a video of an experiment conducted by Masaru Emoto. He is a Japanese author and researcher who claims that human consciousness has an effect on the molecular structure of water.
The experiment shows how positive words helped the rice ferment and how negativity turned it black. The third beaker though created an impact, nothing was done to it. It was ignored and so, it rot.
I cannot attest to the accuracy of the result because I haven’t tried to perform it myself, but as a parent, it made me rethink about how I should communicate with my child. Name-calling or labeling is something we should all get rid off. Never make our home feel like a courtroom where the kids are judged everyday. Kids should be fed with life, with hope and with love.
Give time to your kids. Time to say I love you, time to praise their achievements and even time to correct them. Words are powerful. Let’s be more responsible and make sure that we make use of it to build people especially our children.
“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” Prov 18:21 NIV
Please let me know if you have tips on how to properly and effectively communicate with kids by leaving a comment below.