The first time I was able to have my alone time after I gave birth to Aya, I thought me-time would be an easy go-to-the mall kind of thing. I was wrong. I felt lost and guilty. My arms got so used to carrying my baby that I thought it felt useless if I am not carrying her. I felt so weird.
As I grow and mature with my baby, I learned that having some time alone is something some of us take for granted. I see it as a vital part of parenting though. It prevents us from becoming overfamiliar to the point that we perceive some things as normal when it is not.
Stepping back for a while allows me to get a new perspective. It gives me time to reassess things. To repurpose. Call it a break in between sprint. You won’t be able to finish the race without a break. Or, worse, get injured along the way.
So, how should you do it?
1. Work with your partner
Take your significant other on board. You both need to agree that you need to have a break. Take this as a chance for him and your baby to bond as well. It will be easier for you to get in your zone if you know you have a trusty teammate taking care of your precious one. It will at least alleviate the guilt.
2. Make it a habit
Mark it on your calendar with the same red marker you have for your pedia visit. It requires conscious effort from us mommies to remind ourselves we need a break. Have it at least once a week.
3. Plan it out
If you feel like you’ll be like me on my first me-time, then plan ahead. It does not have to be grand. Here are some ideas you can try out for starters.
At the end of the day, I think our kids will thank us for taking a break in between our motherly duties. Because instead of being consumed, we will be able to give more of us.
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