How are you?
I hope you feel better than I am today. My Priscilla Ahn album is playing on my Spotify while I’m typing away on my laptop. If you are a mom and you can identify with me right now, let me send you a tight virtual hug. It’s okay if you do not feel like your 100% today. Take your time. Stop and take the time to recharge.
My google search results included “cabin fever”. It’s the first time I come across this word, but I think it ticks a lot of boxes. All I know for sure is I do not want to move, I long to go out of the house, breathe some fresh air or just simply walk around somewhere that is not inside my house.
If you are feeling the same way, here are some ways I deal with the blues.
Talk to someone.
I always tell my husband whenever I’m feeling blue. Saying it out loud helps me understand myself. It also helps my husband understand why I act differently at the moment. My husband would give me back massage or simply allow me to have my peace listening to music or reading books.
Walk it out.
Other times I would call my friends, have some chitchat over Facetime or prepandemic, we would arrange lunch dates. Most of the time, I just want to step away from the house and have some time for myself. Do not deny yourself this luxury. It is always healthy to step out and do whatever you have to do (just make sure it’s legal) for your mental health. Do not be guilty. A mom needs time alone and that is okay.
Have a mom-friend you can talk to.
Someone who understands what it is like to be a mom. Someone who understands your exhaustion. Someone who is not going to judge you for being tired of being a mom once in a while. It does not make you a bad mom if you feel exhausted. It is okay. I am thankful that I also have mom friends who pray for me whenever I feel inadequate.
Read the bible.
Sometimes I notice that the root cause of my sadness comes from comments made by other people or myself. The bible is where you can reassure yourself of your worth as a person. It is where you can find right through the mouth of God that you are loved, you are precious, you are worth more than the value of rubies. There you will find that really, there is Someone out there who loves you. There is nothing you can or can’t do that can change that.
How are you? If you are still feeling down, drop me a message on my Facebook and Instagram page: @mywondermom and I’ll pray for you.